Photo: Natália Zajačiková

What the heck just happened? A beginners guide to understanding squirting

Let me begin by addressing the first thing that is probably on everyone’s mind by saying: Squirting is not pee. It is a common misconception that squirting, which is also known as female ejaculation, is the release of urine during sex. So if it’s not pee, what is it then? Let’s take a closer look at human sexual anatomy to see what is really going on when a vulva owner squirts. 

Anatomy basics

Here’s a compact explanation of what is going on inside a vulva owner’s body when they ejaculate. All genitals are filled with erectile tissue which swell and engorge when they are aroused. Vulva owners also have what we know as Skene’s gland;These glands are located around the area of the urethral sponge (the area often incorrectly as the G Spot) and become filled with fluid when sexual arousal occurs. If you reach inside of the vaginal canal you can feel the urethral sponge through the anterior vaginal wall, so right behind your pubic bone. When arousal occurs and these glands are stimulated this is when squirting / female ejaculation can occur. This fluid is most similar in composition to prostate fluid and can come out in a few drips, a small stream or a gush–it varies and won’t always be as wet and wild as it is portrayed in mainstream porn. Going into the entire sexual anatomy of vulva owners is beyond the scope of this piece but if you want to learn about this stuff more in depth I would recommend Girl Sex 101 or Women’s Anatomy of Arousal.

Photo: Natália Zajačiková

Some vulva owners may squirt frequently while other squirt once, every once in a while or even never.  And there is nothing wrong with this; it’s Just another beautiful example of human sexual variation. Even though squirting can happen alongside orgasm because of the high level of arousal, this is not always the case and squirting and orgasm can happen separately. Try to remember that there are no goals in sex, just opportunities to explore and discover new ways to experience pleasure. If exploring squirting something you or your partner(s) are interested in trying here are some things you will want to keep in mind.  

  1. Pee before play- As arousal occurs and the urethral sponge is stimulated you may feel a sensation similar to when you need to pee. Having an empty bladder will assure you that you can relax into play without worrying about peeing.
  2. Arousal is key- This is an opportunity for you to try new ways to stimulate your senses. The skene’s glands can be stimulated indirectly as well so there is no need to focus solely on one particular area.
  3. Try something new–When stimulating a vulva play with different rhythms, patterns and varying amounts of pressure. You can also experiment with different kinds of toys made specifically to stimulate the area around the urethral sponge
  4. Squirt is not lube!-Although it is a fluid you still need to use lube and plenty of it. The fluid excreted through squirting has a very different chemical makeup and is not a replacement for lube. 

And most importantly have fun with it! I would also recommend that you watch our video on masturbation for more tips on how to switch up your masturbation rituals to find something new and pleasurable. Im a strong believer that learning more about the body and how it functions ,especially when it comes to sex, is an empowering tool. Although this was only a brief introduction to an intricate topic I hope that it has inspired you to learn more so that you can feel empowered to give/or receive new kinds of pleasure. And if you happen to squirt during the process consider that a bonus!

Photo: Natália Zajačiková